A little bit about me: If pressed I'd have to say I'm a femme, but I don't fit neatly into that tiny box. Yes, I'm more "bottom" than top. My most exciting sexual encounters have been with stone butches (as defined here). But I hate to wear dresses/skirts & if I could wear jeans to everything I would. Most days I use no makeup (I have plenty, use it when I "need" to). I prefer sneakers over pumps. I've always been a Tomboy tho I'm "well past 30something": tinker on my own car & everything. As if that wasn't enough, I'm a chocolate hued Caribbean born sistah, but so help me I prefer a little "cream" in my coffee ... if y'know what I mean. It seems that most people tend to not cross ethnic lines, but I step boldly into the forbidden territory.
I'm strongly attracted to androgynous, boyish women, but I don't like "mannish" women who look/behave like a dude ... y'know, shaven heads, male characteristics and so on. And yet, I look at a woman like Alicia Keys & my knees go weak (but that probably applies to all of us, huh? :D). Am I confusing you? Does anyone understand me? Most importantly, is there a woman out there who would accept me with these quirks?
(I know I haven't posted a pic yet ... I'm a bit timid in this respect, but I promise you I'm real easy on the eyes.)
A little bit about me: If pressed I'd have to say I'm a femme, but I don't fit neatly into that tiny box. Yes, I'm more "bottom" than top. My most exciting sexual encounters have been with stone butches (as defined here). But I hate to wear dresses/skirts & if I could wear jeans to everything I would. Most days I use no makeup (I have plenty, use it when I "need" to). I prefer sneakers over pumps. I've always been a Tomboy tho I'm "well past 30something": tinker on my own car & everything. As if that wasn't enough, I'm a chocolate hued Caribbean born sistah, but so help me I prefer a little "cream" in my coffee ... if y'know what I mean. It seems that most people tend to not cross ethnic lines, but I step boldly into the forbidden territory.
I'm strongly attracted to androgynous, boyish women, but I don't like "mannish" women who look/behave like a dude ... y'know, shaven heads, male characteristics and so on. And yet, I look at a woman like Alicia Keys & my knees go weak (but that probably applies to all of us, huh? :D). Am I confusing you? Does anyone understand me? Most importantly, is there a woman out there who would accept me with these quirks?
(I know I haven't posted a pic yet ... I'm a bit timid in this respect, but I promise you I'm real easy on the eyes.)
honestly, i hate labels. i am who i am & especially style wise, that changes daily lol some days i want to wear a dress and heels and makeup and do my hair and other days jeans and a tshirt with my hair in a ponytail is perfect. that's also why i don't have a specific "type" of woman i'm attracted to...it's about a connection & personality. i refuse to classify anything and i'm not looking to categorize myself or others. it's just not necessary in my opinion =)
honestly, i hate labels. i am who i am & especially style wise, that changes daily lol some days i want to wear a dress and heels and makeup and do my hair and other days jeans and a tshirt with my hair in a ponytail is perfect. that's also why i don't have a specific "type" of woman i'm attracted to...it's about a connection & personality. i refuse to classify anything and i'm not looking to categorize myself or others. it's just not necessary in my opinion =)
coffee2, I am in the same boat as you, but at the other end, I look like a total butch, but I am not. I do on occasion wear make up, and I do carry a pocketbook from time to time. I live out in the country where having to worry about how I am dressed doesn't matter. I only have one "dress code" and that is when I ride my Harley, of course, I have to wear my leathers. As far as women, I am attracted to the whole person, not just looks, although, yes they do help.
coffee2, I am in the same boat as you, but at the other end, I look like a total butch, but I am not. I do on occasion wear make up, and I do carry a pocketbook from time to time. I live out in the country where having to worry about how I am dressed doesn't matter. I only have one "dress code" and that is when I ride my Harley, of course, I have to wear my leathers. As far as women, I am attracted to the whole person, not just looks, although, yes they do help.
Well said, Tristan. I agree with your evaluation. I know that there are times when people might think I'm butch. I will crawl under my truck in a minute, I'll change a flat, climb on the roof of my house to clean the gutters. But whenever I go out, the earrings, the tight Jeans, the hair must be just right. And I LOVE pocketbooks, LOL. My friend calls me a bag lady.
But the lesbians I know seem to live by these classifications. The so-called butches don't care for me because I'm not "girly" enough; the "femmes" are looking for a butch. As for me, I love women who are ... well, women. I don't want someone to look at me & my partner & think: this or that one is "the man". Ugh!!
Quoting Tristan2010
Its good to not fit! Labels are good for inanimate stuff. Things that dont change. I am primarily just me. I think Im very gay. Friends have said I dont look gay. Whatever that means. Lol. Some days Im more butch than others. I see beauty in everything and everybody. Especially if I start from the inside. Aestetically, I love women! Strong & butch, soft and femm, strong & femme, soft & butch, its all good! The beauty is in the being! The only beings that actually like pigeon-holes are pigeons, and even they like to get out and spread their wings.
Quoting Tristan2010
Its good to not fit! Labels are good for inanimate stuff. Things that dont change. I am primarily just me. I think Im very gay. Friends have said I dont look gay. Whatever that means. Lol. Some days Im more butch than others. I see beauty in everything and everybody. Especially if I start from the inside. Aestetically, I love women! Strong & butch, soft and femm, strong & femme, soft & butch, its all good! The beauty is in the being! The only beings that actually like pigeon-holes are pigeons, and even they like to get out and spread their wings.
Well said, Tristan. I agree with your evaluation. I know that there are times when people might think I'm butch. I will crawl under my truck in a minute, I'll change a flat, climb on the roof of my house to clean the gutters. But whenever I go out, the earrings, the tight Jeans, the hair must be just right. And I LOVE pocketbooks, LOL. My friend calls me a bag lady.
But the lesbians I know seem to live by these classifications. The so-called butches don't care for me because I'm not "girly" enough; the "femmes" are looking for a butch. As for me, I love women who are ... well, women. I don't want someone to look at me & my partner & think: this or that one is "the man". Ugh!!
I think I get you... I'm Femme, but kinda a tomboy too. Growing up I was into playing detective and climbing trees... yeah I loved that. I'm lite on the makeup myself, but love my lipstick, I'm a girl totally - looking for a lovely lady.
Hey,
I think I get you... I'm Femme, but kinda a tomboy too. Growing up I was into playing detective and climbing trees... yeah I loved that. I'm lite on the makeup myself, but love my lipstick, I'm a girl totally - looking for a lovely lady.
I find your selfwritten expression of who you are to be very free flowing. I 2 tinker on my own car and do wear make up when called for but prefer the country gal look. I find shaved heads a little off setting. Take care.
I find your selfwritten expression of who you are to be very free flowing. I 2 tinker on my own car and do wear make up when called for but prefer the country gal look. I find shaved heads a little off setting. Take care.
